GETTING STRAIGHT TO IT
Ok, so i must admit, it's my first time blogging a fresh blog post in a good while and if I'm totally honest, my writing skills are probably not tip top, a bit rusty round the edges trying to get my brain in gear, ha! So I'll probably keep this first dose of 'Monday Motivation' fairly short and snappy.
What small bit of motivation do I want to share with you today though?
Answer: The topic or suggestion for you to fully embrace never ending improvement and development for yourself and your life. To never stop wanting more, seeing things better, brighter, more clear. To never settle for too long in a life that's just familiar without opening your eyes and mind and asking yourself on a consistent basis......
'What are you excited about for yourself and in your life, and in the rest of the year to come?'
(ANSWER IT NOW IN YOUR HEAD,
...then continue reading)
WHY I BRING UP THIS SUBJECT
I recall several conversations recently with people close to me, and here's two examples of how some of the questions and answers went.
Question: What are you excited about then at the minute or for the rest of this year?
Reply: Nothing really.
Question: How you feeling recently?
Reply: Wow, I've not even been asked that in like ages.
Now, I don't mention this to imply that we should ALWAYS be excited about things, or always thinking or asking how we're feeling. But to me in all honesty, these are both such fundamentals when it comes to you experiencing more genuine happiness on a regular basis. When you're conscious. When you're awake. When you're not just playing along day to day the same script on auto-pilot, and not even feeling happy for the majority of the time.
We have to be excited about something, feel we're growing, progressing, evolving, becoming that bit better everyday as a person, in our characters; Otherwise we get complacent, become 'the moaners', bitter, bored - ultimately unhappy, not fulfilled, not whole, not FULL.
Not feeling loved.
Soooo, we have to be looking at SOMETHING ahead of us, spiritually (your mind), physically (your body), financially (with your income), materially (your house etc), relationships (love/connections) - any one of the above, with a means to and INTENTION TO GROW.
Any specific desire or goal you have and reach, brings about the drive then to keep creating more and more of the life that you do WANT.
REMEMBER: Attainment breeds confidence, and confidence breeds strength...
And strength gives you that feeling of WOW, I CAN ACTUALLY DO THIS! ANYTHING!
and so you keep going.
TO FINISH UP
With regards to the second question about often not REALLY knowing how each of us feels, or asking with the intention to take better care of one another..... How do you expect to feel connected and loved if you don't even check in with yourself and evaluate how YOU'RE feeling every now and again.
Stop to be present today. To be honest with yourself. What can you start creating, building, changing or doing differently going forward from today?
- the way you communicate with your friends and family
- the effort you put into your job
- the amount you talk to your partner
- the amount of time you actually stop to give yourself credit for everything you've ALREADY DONE & BECOME
- the amount of 'you time' you give to yourself to relax
- the amount of time you spend with your children
- the awareness acknowledging that actually, you do want more in an area of your life.
Acknowledge that 'thing', whatever it is, say hello to it, hold its hand, say okay, we're going to do this. We're going to see this differently from now on.
Try it, play with it.
Change takes time, creating new habits take time, confidence takes times. But we HAVE time.
Use it! :)
Choose ONE thing today that you want to start seeing differently. And watch how other things around you start to switch and up-level for the better too!
Good luck on your journeys guys! ;)
P.S - Wasn't so short and snappy afterall hey?! Ha!
BE AUTHENTIC. BE UNIQUE. BE YOU.
Not going anywhere? Sitting on ideas? Feeling miserable but not making any REAL moves to change things? Dreaming, but without a core self-belief that you CAN do it and change?
The problem for most dreamers, entrepreneurs, creatives, ambitious, persistent and driven minds, is that we spend so much time trying to 'perfect' ideas in our heads that we rarely make the real progress needed to achieve.
We so badly build up an expection and the vision of how we think our work, life and relationships SHOULD be, that we stay stuck paralysed in this state of waiting, analysing or 'planning' all the time (avoiding!) instead of executing.
This avoiding and waiting slowly and dangerously eats away at not just our time, our dreams and our beliefs to make things work, allowing the energy to drop and the momentum to stop. It eats away at our overall happiness, relationships and friendships because we start to resent and hate ourselves without even knowing it!! We sabotage our success before it's even begun, OUR OWN DREAMS.
Inside we start mentally beating ourselves up asking why we find it so hard to just:
- make the change
- change the job
- lose the weight
- stop smoking
- commit to the relationship
- end the relationship
- stop taking the drugs
- make the call
- arrange the meeting
- ask for help
....and the list goes on for everyone in different ways.
So what is my point in all this?
What is your dream? Goal? Business idea? Relationship?
What's it all for?
Why does it matter to you?
What is it you're actually wanting?
We're becoming more and more a nation of people hiding instead of designing. Running instead of loving. Competing instead of deleting. Faking instead of making. Lieing when we should be crying. And worst of all numbing instead of hugging!
So I hold my hand up along with the next person that I too, can easily hide away when I'm scared of changing my life for the better at times. I used to want to run from love all the time instead of letting things develop, through fear that they'd one day see I'm not as 'perfect' or together as I like to make out. I used to compare myself and envy other successful entrepreneurs I saw online instead of just un-following those that weren't aligned with who I was anyway (seen as I don't know them or know if what they post is true anyway!) ....which subsequently made more room for my loving friends 'newsfeeds' :) I used to pretend that I was okay when I should have been connecting on a deeper level with people. I hid. We all do at times.
We lie saying we're 'fine' when we sometimes deep down just want to cry or admit that something IS just crap - it feels awful, wrong, not aligned!
And the biggie for alot of us. We really do numb when we should be hugging each other for comfort like animals do instead :) ~ I LOVE this picture !
Katie Bunting's strong desire to make a difference and bring out the best in everyone that crosses her path has never left her.