Why is it we often feel stuck, sad and unfulfilled and sometimes desperately seek a better life but feel whatever we do doesn’t seem to make things any better or at least not for very long? Are you in a relationship where you feel it drains you as opposed to enhancing every great quality you have and making every aspect of your life richer? Are you in a job where you’re starting to realise you actually dread going in everyday because even the thought of being there conjures up images of your annoying boss or the 'To Do List' that never seems to go down? Maybe you actually feel on paper your life is pretty damn good and yet you find yourself confused about why you’re still not fulfilled. Well here's some food for thought that might hopefully shift things for you.
I have come to realise that many of us spend so much time clinging or holding on to things purely out of habit and routine, not realising we don’t even want those particular things/jobs/people in our lives. We actually expend so much energy holding on to things more for the reason that we can’t bear to lose or let go of anything and feel like we failed, failed at ‘keeping things together’ or keeping control. But surely living this way defeats the whole point of why we work so hard ultimately to create an enjoyable and stress-free life, the life we all crave so much, one where things flow nicely without force. So here is my point...
The confusion and frustration I believe comes when we attach to the theory that to be happy means we have to have stability and security, basically a life without change. But what if maybe most things in life are meant to come to pass, change, develop and constantly evolve? What if we saw every experience, event, job or person as one that will come and go, with the exception of those special few that, through no real effort on our parts, stick to us, to our hearts and to our lives for good?
But how do you know when you’ve touched on ‘those’ things, the keepers? When those things enter, they’ll slide in from your blind spot; sit quietly and comfortably asking for nothing as they settle in like they were always meant to be there. I have come to believe this the best way to approach and view life if, as I’m sure many of you are, looking to replace a life of pressure, desperation and planning, with ease, trust and a belief that intuition will do its job in guiding you where you need to go, what you need to do and who you need around you to enable you to thrive.
Let’s face it, if we feel we have to cling on so desperately to something, is it really meant for us in the first place. When we put so much emphasis on keeping a hold of something through fear of not feeling we did enough to keep it, we don’t realise just how much of ourselves we close off to the rest of the world, killing any chance of real happiness. We don’t notice the amazing new people waiting to enter our lives, the glimmers of opportunity waiting to be seen or the risks eagerly awaiting a chance to be taken on them.
So let’s see how bad you really want change? I’d like to set you a little challenge if you’re willing to accept, an experiment if you will and report back to me on what you notice. I want you to seriously imagine for this next week or at least a few days that your body is a walking canvas and on that canvas, painted beautifully are all the things, people, experiences that you desire, need and want in your life right now. I want you to believe and trust as you go about your day to day life that every person walking past can see clearly (without you needing to say a word) what you’re wanting in your life right now. How light and carefree does that make you feel knowing you don’t have to make any decisions, discuss or communicate what you’re wanting to anyone, it’s already ‘written’ and decided.
'All you have to do is be aware you’re displaying this canvas to the world and that you're 100% okay with whatever it’s portraying. And be willing to then accept the surprises that are about to show up for you'
The key to this experiment being a success is that you have to trust and believe that people will LOVE your ‘canvas’ (regardless of what’s painted on it), and all the gorgeous colours that you’ve used ;) Those that love it the most will make themselves known to you and be drawn to you without understanding why. That my friend when it happens will be connection right there, connection that you have actively created, connection with the things, opportunities and people that are about to bring you everything you could ever dream of!
So, get cracking. Mentally paint your canvas now, let the canvas talk, take your foot off the accelerator and switch to first gear for a few days as you pay attention to what’s going on around you rather than what’s in your head. Glide along and see what happens.
Report back to me :) and as always remember, don't be fearless, just bravely fear-less!
Katie Bunting's strong desire to make a difference and bring out the best in everyone that crosses her path has never left her.