Not going anywhere? Sitting on ideas? Feeling miserable but not making any REAL moves to change things? Dreaming, but without a core self-belief that you CAN do it and change?
The problem for most dreamers, entrepreneurs, creatives, ambitious, persistent and driven minds, is that we spend so much time trying to 'perfect' ideas in our heads that we rarely make the real progress needed to achieve.
We so badly build up an expection and the vision of how we think our work, life and relationships SHOULD be, that we stay stuck paralysed in this state of waiting, analysing or 'planning' all the time (avoiding!) instead of executing.
This avoiding and waiting slowly and dangerously eats away at not just our time, our dreams and our beliefs to make things work, allowing the energy to drop and the momentum to stop. It eats away at our overall happiness, relationships and friendships because we start to resent and hate ourselves without even knowing it!! We sabotage our success before it's even begun, OUR OWN DREAMS.
Inside we start mentally beating ourselves up asking why we find it so hard to just:
- make the change
- change the job
- lose the weight
- stop smoking
- commit to the relationship
- end the relationship
- stop taking the drugs
- make the call
- arrange the meeting
- ask for help
....and the list goes on for everyone in different ways.
So what is my point in all this?
What is your dream? Goal? Business idea? Relationship?
What's it all for?
Why does it matter to you?
What is it you're actually wanting?
We're becoming more and more a nation of people hiding instead of designing. Running instead of loving. Competing instead of deleting. Faking instead of making. Lieing when we should be crying. And worst of all numbing instead of hugging!
So I hold my hand up along with the next person that I too, can easily hide away when I'm scared of changing my life for the better at times. I used to want to run from love all the time instead of letting things develop, through fear that they'd one day see I'm not as 'perfect' or together as I like to make out. I used to compare myself and envy other successful entrepreneurs I saw online instead of just un-following those that weren't aligned with who I was anyway (seen as I don't know them or know if what they post is true anyway!) ....which subsequently made more room for my loving friends 'newsfeeds' :) I used to pretend that I was okay when I should have been connecting on a deeper level with people. I hid. We all do at times.
We lie saying we're 'fine' when we sometimes deep down just want to cry or admit that something IS just crap - it feels awful, wrong, not aligned!
And the biggie for alot of us. We really do numb when we should be hugging each other for comfort like animals do instead :) ~ I LOVE this picture !
Katie Bunting's strong desire to make a difference and bring out the best in everyone that crosses her path has never left her.