Just A Girl With A Dream...

Not going anywhere? Sitting on ideas? Feeling miserable but not making any REAL moves to change things? Dreaming, but without a core self-belief that you CAN do it and change?

The problem for most dreamers, entrepreneurs, creatives, ambitious, persistent and driven minds, is that we spend so much time trying to 'perfect' ideas in our heads that we rarely make the real progress needed to achieve.

We so badly build up an expection and the vision of how we think our work, life and relationships SHOULD be, that we stay stuck paralysed in this state of waiting, analysing or 'planning' all the time (avoiding!) instead of executing.

Distracting ourselves.

This avoiding and waiting slowly and dangerously eats away at not just our time, our dreams and our beliefs to make things work, allowing the energy to drop and the momentum to stop. It eats away at our overall happiness, relationships and friendships because we start to resent and hate ourselves without even knowing it!! We sabotage our success before it's even begun, OUR OWN DREAMS.

Inside we start mentally beating ourselves up asking why we find it so hard to just:

- make the change
- change the job
- lose the weight
- stop smoking
- commit to the relationship
- end the relationship
- stop taking the drugs
- make the call
- arrange the meeting
- ask for help

....and the list goes on for everyone in different ways.

So what is my point in all this?

What is your dream? Goal? Business idea? Relationship?
What's it all for?
Why does it matter to you?
What is it you're actually wanting?

We're becoming more and more a nation of people hiding instead of designing. Running instead of loving. Competing instead of deleting. Faking instead of making. Lieing when we should be crying. And worst of all numbing instead of hugging!

So I hold my hand up along with the next person that I too, can easily hide away when I'm scared of changing my life for the better at times. I used to want to run from love all the time instead of letting things develop, through fear that they'd one day see I'm not as 'perfect' or together as I like to make out. I used to compare myself and envy other successful entrepreneurs I saw online instead of just un-following those that weren't aligned with who I was anyway (seen as I don't know them or know if what they post is true anyway!) ....which subsequently made more room for my loving friends 'newsfeeds' :) I used to pretend that I was okay when I should have been connecting on a deeper level with people. I hid. We all do at times.

We lie saying we're 'fine' when we sometimes deep down just want to cry or admit that something IS just crap - it feels awful, wrong, not aligned!

And the biggie for alot of us. We really do numb when we should be hugging each other for comfort like animals do instead :) ~ I LOVE this picture !

But what does the title 'Just a girl with a dream' have to do with the point?

We all can get so caught up trying to live up to an expectation we set for ourselves that we often forget and neglect just how complex we are, how we should give ourselves credit for all the other things we do deal with well, for even getting up, showing up, and experiencing day to day things in work, relationships, etc, learning; We don't need to beat ourselves up so much. In other words, it's okay to want many things. But to know that they do take time. It's a process. YOU are a process, evolving everyday.

You are so many things. WE are so many things as individuals. A girlfriend, boyfriend, mother, father, son, daughter, friend, worker, soft hearted, hard hearted, driven, lazy, harsh, sensitive, confused, clear, confident, scared. We play so many roles everyday constantly having to adapt and move through emotions. It's hard. It's life. And the beauty that we get from it is variety. Such vast personalities and yet we get so caught up or obsessed with one area of our lives that just needs tweeking, that the rest often then falls apart or suffers = unhappiness, feeling like we're failing.

We lose balance. We lose sight sometimes of the big picture. We lose who we are, our character, our spark.

So today people just a gentle reminder. Please notice the little things. Notice moment to moment how you're viewed by the people you know (in a good way). Notice how or why you matter to those people, because you DO matter!

Design more, love more, delete more, make more, cry more, and hug SO much more! Just make things how YOU want them. Create.

There it is. So are you a girl or boy, lady or gent with a dream? Make that dream not just one of success in work or what you achieve, but one of many dreams that mean you're fulfilling, honouring and acknowledging ALL the sides to yourself that matter and need attention. And in those around you.

Don't neglect the little things.
Notice the conversations you have today.
The stuff that's real and happening for you NOW.

Katie x